Wednesday, June 13, 2012

Asking for help

Asking for help is something that doesn't come naturally for me or for Ben.  We like to hide under the illusion that we can always take care of everything by ourselves.  But more and more we are realizing that this adoption won't happen - it's not possible - without community.  In the letter below, we invite you to join us on this journey and humbly ask you to consider being a part of our community of support:




Dear Friends and Family,                                                                                                           

We have some exciting news to share with you:  We are happy to announce that we are in the process of adopting a child!  We have completed the initial paperwork and evaluation (our home study), and are now certified for international adoption.  After much prayer and research we have applied to an orphanage in Jinja, Uganda. We are hoping to adopt a child (or sibling group of two children) between the ages of 1-6 years old.  This may seem out of the blue for some of you, but it is actually something we believe God has been calling us to do for a long time.  Now we are stepping out in faith, confident that God will enable, equip and provide for our present family and the child God has waiting for us. 

Similar to sending out support letters for a short or long term mission, we are asking you for support in the mission that we will be on for the rest of our lives.

First of all and most importantly, we ask for prayer. As we have already experienced, the adoption road is an unpredictable one. Please pray for us as we strive to bring our child home from Uganda. 
·         Pray that God will orchestrate each step (we are at the mercy of a variety of governments, agencies and organizations, etc) and help us maneuver through this maze in a way that is honoring to Him.
·         Pray that God will change us as we wait, remind us of His goodness and faithfulness, and increase our faith as we prepare to bring our child home.
·         Pray that our child will be comforted from the emotional strain that accompanies this process. 
·         Pray also for the children already in our care - that God will prepare each of their hearts to love and welcome another child into our family. 
·         Finally, pray for us as parents to have wisdom for today and in the years ahead.

Secondly, we humbly ask for your financial support.  Adoption is quite expensive and we are hoping to limit the amount of debt accrued as a result of this process.  The amount of funds necessary to complete our adoption is $23,000.  Prayerfully consider whether God would have you support this mission.  Throughout the Bible God tells us to look after the fatherless and defend the cry of the orphan.  James 1:27 says that true religion is caring for widows and orphans in their distress.  This verse, and so many others like it, makes it clear that God cares about orphans.  Orphan care is a complex and difficult issue – not all are called to adopt, but there are many other ways to help, giving being one of many ways.  We are confident that God will provide, as he always does, for our journey.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read our letter and for supporting our family as we bring the newest Wilson home.  We are ever thankful for the encouragement we receive from family and friends, who have supported us in a variety of ways over the years. We know that God already has a child in mind for us and that they belong in our family.  We are asking for your help to bring her (or him) home.


Much love and gratitude,
Ben & Kristine Wilson



Frequently Asked Questions

Why adopt internationally? Aren’t there plenty of children right here in the USA who need good homes?

This is a fair question. It is true that there are many children in the United States who don’t have a family to call their own. We hope and pray God will call more people to be involved in orphan care through the foster and adoption system in our country. Some of our friends at church have answered that call and are caring for a family of five children they will soon adopt. We are so thankful for them and their involvement in orphan care this way. As we considered our adoption and started researching, we were struck by the staggering number of children overseas who live in orphanages, with little to no access to basic things we take for granted in the US, like medical care and education. The orphan living situation overseas is often a much different environment than for children without families in United States, who have the benefit of a (granted, imperfect) foster system, state-subsidized health/dental/vision care, public education, etc. And so, after researching and praying about it, we simply felt that for our adoption, God was calling us to adopt from overseas.

Why does international adoption cost so much?

The cost varies from country to country.  The costs incurred range from agency, government and lawyer fees to medical and travel fees – like passports and visas - and more.  For example, the home study alone costs $3240. If you are interested in the breakdown, please ask us. We would be happy to share that information with you.

How can we help?

YOU CAN PRAY. We have already described how you can be in prayer for us and truly, prayer is one of the sweetest gifts you can give us, asking God to help us and provide all we need for this task.

YOU CAN GIVE.   You can send general donations to our church who is partnering with us to ensure transparency and accountability in the fundraising process.  Funds will be managed by our leaders, Kevin VanBuskirk and Allen Whitesitt.  Please make checks out to Church of Christ Fellowship and write “Wilson Adoption” in the memo line, then mail to:            
Church of Christ Fellowship
PO Box 3193
La Crosse, WI 54602

o    We will be having many fundraisers over the next several months. We hope to have the first in July.   Some friends of ours will be partnering with us in an effort to “Care for Widows & Orphans” by helping a local widow care for her home.  Would you consider sponsoring us to spend a day serving and providing labor for a widow in need?  Please mail your donation to our church address (listed above).

o    You can donate time, prizes or skills - basically anything we can auction. We hope to hold a Silent Auction at the end of August or beginning of September and are hoping to have a couple “big ticket” items donated that we can auction with several smaller prizes. Please let us know if you have ideas, items to auction, or would like to help in any other way.

o    You can be a “Matching Donor.” We hope to do some fundraisers asking people to “match” an amount that has been offered by a donor. (ie., “Help us raise $500 by August 1st and a donor will match every dollar raised.”)


YOU CAN SHARE OUR STORY (by phone, letter, email, Facebook, blog, etc…) so that others can join us in this journey.   Follow our adventure and invite others to do so through our blog - http://thewilsonjournal12.blogspot.com/  We need prayer most of all and are in need of God to show his faithfulness through providing the necessary resources (monetary support).  We know there are people out there who care about orphans as we do, but have no idea how to help. Perhaps they know adoption is not right for them or their families, but can’t think of any other way to be involved. Praying, giving and spreading the word about our adoption needs could be a first step toward orphan care.

We sincerely thank you for your support.  Anything you can give – prayer, time, monetary gifts, encouragement – is greatly appreciated!







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